Holy shit.
So today is my 29th birthday. It’s strange to know that this is the last year of an entire decade of my life. Your 20′s are supposed to be full of promise, and adventure, and new experiences. Now that I think about it, as I embark on the final 365 days of my 20′s, mine have been full of adventure and plenty of experiences (both good and bad).
I wasn’t really thinking about it (typical) until I had a conversation with my friend Hana the other day. We were in her car on the 101 heading out to pick up a hard drive that has some video footage I’m editing and compositing (more on that later). Typical California day: bright and sunny, warm, smoggy. There wasn’t much traffic, which for 4:15pm on a Sunday was odd, but welcomed. As our conversations always seem to do, we traversed the banal to the esoteric. At some point after we picked up the drive, but before arriving back at my apartment, we ended up talking about where we were in life compared to where we THOUGHT we’d be 10 years ago. More like her telling me “Ari, I’m nowhere near where I thought I would be and that shit sucks.”
Which got me thinking a lot about where I thought I would be by the time I hit 29. Honestly, if you had asked me 10 years ago where I’d be when I was 29, I had my textbook response already practiced and read to tell you with a completely unintentional air of smugness: “Twenty-nine, workin’ at Pixar, living in California, and probably married.” That was my answer. Ten years later I find it hard to swallow that a) that’s how simply I could boil my future life down to just a single sentence, and b) I was SO far off the mark (besides the California thing, but even then, Pixar is located near SF, not LA).
Compare where I am to where I thought I would be. Currently I do in fact live in California, southern Cal, but still California. I do not work for Pixar, in fact, thanks to the recession, I’ve found it pretty hard to work for anyone. I am not married. The girl that I thought I would be with just recently got engaged to someone else. But, even though I’m completely off the mark of where I was so sure I’d be 10 years ago, I’ve never been happier.
Why is that? For me, personally, I think that very few people’s plans about where they see themselves “10 years from now” ever pan out. It’s asinine to try to see yourself 87,600 hours into the future when I personally have problems figuring out where I’ll be on a Friday night, and at MOST that’s 72 hours in my future. My Mother and Father said it best (and their advice seems to ring truer and truer as I get older) when they said that life isn’t a race, and it’s not a destination. It’s the JOURNEY that matters. It truly is. There have been so many unexpected events in my life. So many things that you can’t even try to anticipate. It’s not about any of that, but how you deal with it. I made the move to Los Angeles a little over a year ago, and sure, I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m working towards it.
I know there are people that believe in me, and at the same time I know there are people who don’t. That’s just how things go. I eat well. I exercise and keep myself healthy. I’m making friends and meeting new people. I own a motorcycle, something I’ve wanted since I was a kid. I wake up everyday not a slave to someone else’s schedule. Since moving to LA, I’ve had one of the most explosive growths as an artist since as far back as I can remember even picking up a pencil and drawing. Everyday I’m experiencing new things and meeting new people. I have an amazing network of friends and family that supports me in everything I do.
Yeah, I’m not at Pixar, married, and living in [Northern] California. The way I see it, I’m actually much better off. I wouldn’t trade in any of the hardships, heartaches, confusion, uncertainty, joy, anticipation, anxiousness, elation, and adventure for anything in the world. It’s everything I’ve done up to this point that’s mattered. This point in time on it’s own is meaningless without everything else that’s occurred.
So as I sit on the edge of my 20′s, looking into the last year of this decade of my life, I’m not going to try to figure out where I’ll be 10 years from this point. Who knows. That’s all part of the fun.